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TIP 2244 - Words Hurt: Dealing With A Bully

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“You can’t do anything right”. “This is your fault – It’s always your fault”.

Many of us have grown up, been in a relationship with, worked for, or even been coached by, someone who was emotionally abusive. It is often seen as a normal part of the culture of the organization and tolerated.

People who are the target of emotional abuse are made to feel insignificant and incapable. They may actually begin to feel that they have brought this on themselves and that it really is their fault.

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Here Are Today’s Tips For Building Your Resiliency And Celebrating Bullying Awareness Week

If you are the Recipient of someone else’s abusive behaviour:

1. Take precautions – look for the signs of excessive jealousy and control
2. Don’t blame yourself for the way other person is treating you
3. Believe in yourself – believe that you deserve to be treated with respect
4. Trust your instincts – if you feel uncomfortable than this is probably not a healthy relationship
5. Talk to someone – find someone you can trust – a family member, friend, co-worker, EAP, supervisor, spiritual leader, community advisor or health professional. Call the Distress Centre and they can help make the appropriate referral. These resources can help you to examine all of your options so that you can decide what is best for you.

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TIP 2243 - Have You Written Your Dear Santa Letter?

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This is the time of year to start drafting your letter to Santa. Letters to Santa Claus have a magical Christmas power all their own — they share a child's hopes and dreams, contain wishes innocent enough to bring tears to a parent’s eyes and can save the day like in the classic holiday film, "Miracle on 34th Street."

One letter went like this Dear Santa, I have been good for the last week or so…let’s just focus on that.

Even if you don’t believe in Santa, what would you wish for?

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Here Are Today’s Tips For Building Your Resiliency And Celebrating Dear Santa Letter Week:

Try writing a letter of all of your wants for the upcoming holidays.

Don’t expect them to be delivered on Christmas morning. That only happens in those sappy Hallmark-movies, but it might actually do you some good to take a moment to think about what you really want and put it in writing. There's something to be said for putting into words the things you want in your life. It can be an eye-opening experience as you may find that your priorities are made clear. You may also find that many of the things that you are wanting are within your control.

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TIP 2242 – Forget Me Not

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Have you ever looked through old pictures and ever wondered whatever happened to some of the people that you were friends with or met along the way?

Have you tried to find out where they are or what they are up to on social media?

I have.

I have looked up long lost roommates, classmates, old boyfriends, teachers, and even old bosses.

Sometimes out of nostalgia. Sometimes out of curiosity. Sometimes out of a desire to reconnect.

Forget Me Not Day is a day to try and reconnect with some of the people that you may not be in touch with anymore.

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Here are my tips for Building Resiliency and Celebrating Forget Me Not Day:

Social connection is important, but before I would spend a lot of time and energy on finding those from your past, ask yourself if you are doing a good job of staying connected and supporting those who are your current friends, colleagues, and family members.

Research shows that doubling your group of friends has the same impact on your well-being as a 50% increase in income, we only have so much time and energy to spend on cultivating true, healthy relationships. So use your time and energy wisely.

If you do have a desire to reconnect, ask yourself why. Is it because of curiosity, guilt, or an interest to start up a new relationship? The answer will also help you decide if you should reach out or invest the time and energy.

Social connections and support are key to building resiliency and we know that we are forming fewer friendships than in the past. As life gets busier, we often find that we barely have enough time for ourselves, let alone staying connected with others. Developing and maintaining positive friendships takes effort. Friendships take time to grow, to build trust and to share common experiences. Today is a great day to reach out and let your friends know that you are thinking of them.

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TIP 2241- Appreciating The Right To Choose World Freedom Day

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Our freedom is not something to be taken for granted. We could say that we are lucky to have the freedom to choose any religion we want, the freedom to be in a relationship with the person we love, the freedom to vote for our government officials…the list goes on.

We are not lucky. People fought for our rights and our freedoms. Our freedom to chose should be celebrated, and that’s what World Freedom Day is all about.

World Freedom Day was first observed to commemorate the fall of the Berlin Wall and the reunification of loved ones separated by differing ideologies.

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Here Are Today’s Tips For Building Your Resiliency And Celebrating World Freedom Day:

Read, listen and watch news stories about what is happening around the world. Expand your knowledge so that you can appreciate what you have because of the freedom to choose. Recognize that many people in the world who are still fighting for their own freedoms and liberties.

With Remembrance Day only a few days away, give appreciation to all those who had and have the courage to insist on a better future for themselves, their families, and their country.

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TIP 2240 - Wishing You Had More Time?

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Wouldn’t it be nice to have ample time…Really?

More than enough time to get the things done that we would like to be able to get done?

Do you remember the 1996 movie “Multiplicity” with Michael Keaton? 

I would love to have several clones of myself all existing at the same time to get all of the many things done that I wanted to get done.  There would be the Magnificent Mom. The Grateful Gardener. The World Renown Stress Speaker and the Magnificent Marketer who could pump out websites and create marketing materials faster than a speeding bullet.  I am sure that I could think of more me’s that I would need, but even 1 or 2 would be a great start.

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Since this is not likely to happen, Here Are Today’s Tips For Building Your Resiliency And Celebrating Ample Time Day:

Know what your priorities are in each area of your life.  Write them down.  Once we know what is important to us, it is a lot easier to make decisions about how we use our time in the best way possible.

Watch out for ‘black holes’ that seem to suck a lot of our time away.  These activities may be enjoyable, they may be part of your relaxation program, but they also tend to eat up more time then we allocated or expected.

Finally, make sure that you are taking care of yourself, otherwise you will be tired out and lack the energy to use your time wisely. 

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TIP 2239 – Drowsy Driving Kills

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Some days I am so tired that I can’t think straight or even focus my eyes. This is an awful feeling, especially if this fatigue hits while I am driving. Has this ever happened to you?

Over 60% of adults say they have driven drowsy in the past year. And 4% have had an accident or near accident because they were too tired, or they actually dozed off while driving.

Drowsy Driving kills

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Here Are Today’s Tips For Building Your Resiliency And Celebrating National Drowsy Driving Prevention Week:

Know that even one night of sleep loss or poor sleep can put you at risk of drowsy driving. But certain people have a higher risk of drowsy driving than others. So be aware if you have a sleep disorder, work shifts or are taking medications as these can increase your risk for drowsy driving.

Rolling down the windows or turning up the volume on the radio will do little to increase your alertness while driving. So try to get a full night of seven to eight hours of sleep before driving. Avoid driving late at night or alone. And if you need to pull over at a rest stop and take a nap.

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TIP 2238 – Meditation To Mend The Mind

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Our minds can not operate on ‘full throttle’ all day long. Focus meditation helps to clear the mind of racing, cluttered thoughts by focusing our energies on a particular image or thought. Gradually distracting thoughts will decrease during meditation. This strategy helps to restore mental balance by providing a break in our hectic day. By allowing our mind to slow down it is better able to focus when we return to the task at hand.

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Here are today’s Tips For Building Resiliency and Celebrating National Stress Awareness Day:

All that is needed is a quiet environment, a comfortable position, a mental image or positive thought in which to focus on, and an attitude that will permit relaxation to happen. Meditating or focusing on music or a relaxing video can give the mind a needed break from stressful events such as conflict, problem-solving, and high energy output.

Guided imagery is a visualization technique, that goes one step further than mediation, by actually engaging the senses within the body to deliver a variety of messages. It can be used to reduce blood pressure, lower cholesterol, reduce muscle tension, and increase energy. Your body responds to these positive images in the same way it would, if the image was ‘real’.

There is no way we can not get rid of all of our stress, nor do we want to. What we want to do is to reduce our negative reactions to stress so that we don’t become sick, worn down, and worn out. Start by adding one relaxation technique to your daily checklist of things to do.

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TIP 2237 - Pausing By The Fire

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Gathering around a fire pit is a guaranteed way to instantly increase your relaxation factor.

The crackling sound and bright flames are mesmerizing. There is nothing better for me, than a snowy day, cuddled with a blanket beside the fireplace hearing the crackling of the wood.

These relaxing effects from fire may go back to prehistoric times when our ancestors socialized primarily around campfires – forging strong bonds with others and sharing the safety fire provided from predators. You may not have a campfire to sit by or a fireplace in your house, but you can now tune in to a TV station or Youtube video that broadcasts a wood burning fire experience all day long. One study found that that blood pressure decreased for those who watched and listened to the sound of a fire and the longer people watched the fire, the more relaxed they became.

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Here are todays Hot Tips For Building Resiliency and Celebrating Firewood Day:

With the busyness that we experience all day long, it is important for our mental health to find ways to stop, pause and slow down. A campfire, or sitting by the fireplace is a great way to pause and enjoy life’s simple pleasures.

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TIP 2236 - Using Your Common Sense

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Why is common sense not so common?

Common sense is one of the most revered qualities in the workplace. People with common sense are seen as reasonable, down-to-earth, reliable, and practical but here's the catch.

Common sense is neither common nor sense.

If common sense was common, then most people wouldn't make the kinds of decisions they do. Every day people wouldn't buy stuff they couldn't afford. They wouldn't smoke cigarettes or eat junk food. They wouldn't gamble.

In other words people wouldn't do a multitude of things that are clearly not good for them.

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So Here Are My Tips For Building Resiliency In Celebrating Use Your Common-Sense Day:

Trusting in common sense can cause us to make poor rather than sound judgments.

Gather the facts.

Look at past experience and talk to others before making decisions which could have dire consequences.

Keep an open mind to all the possibilities, rather than just confirming the solution that you want to see.

And finally, while we often think with our emotions, this can lead to negative outcomes.

There are times when it's better to think with our analytic brain instead of our heart.

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TIP 2235 - Giving Up On Gossip

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Most of us do it and some of us even started.

It is frowned upon publicly, but privately, it is often indulged in.

If you're a professional gossiper, then you can make money through publishing it in magazine and newspaper columns or even through your own talk show.

However, in some places around the world it is seen as downright criminal.

Workplace gossip can destroy.

Gossip is thought to empower one person while disempowering another, accordingly many companies have formal policies in their employee handbook against gossip.

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Here are Today's Tips For Building Resiliency And Celebrating And Gossip Day:

Gossiping is a reflection of who you are at the core.

Consider the conversations that you have. Are they serving a purpose? Is that purpose constructive. Is it focusing on solving issues or just to draw people to your side?

It can be hard to avoid gossip. Become skilled at walking away or changing the subject. If you can, focus  the conversation on problem solving instead of allowing the attack to continue.

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TIP 2234 – Be An Inspiration

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“We love coming to your class. You are such a great role model for our kids.”

That blew me away. I didn’t really think of myself as a role model. I am just the karate Sensei at the front of the room.

But I guess I am a role model. I let the kids know how tough it is for me to go to a tournament and compete. And how nervous I get before and during my grading. I let them know that they can do all of these things too, even in they are afraid, and that I believe in them.

I hope that I can inspire them to believe in themselves. To move beyond fear.

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So Here Are Today’s Tips For Building Your Resiliency And Celebrating National Inspirational Role Models Month:

I hope that everyone has someone that inspires them to become the person they want to be.

If you haven’t found that person yet, look around. They may be a historic figure, an ancestor, a close family member, a friend, or colleague.

Strive to be a role model to others.

I have some great role models – some are my best girl friends. And I have been fortunate to have great colleagues who I look up to in the way that they innovate, persevere, and reach for success. I am fortunate to have had people who have encouraged me to reach further then I thought capable. I continue to learn from my husband in the way that he problem solves life’s challenges.

Think of the people who you most wish to emulate. If they are still with you, give them a phone call or thank them in person. If they are not here, tell someone about them and keep their legacy alive.

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TIP 2233 – Giving Up The Shoulds

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Should have. Could have. Would have.

I should have taken that other job. I should have talked to my friends before I spent all that time and energy. I should have just left it alone.

Do you find that other people should all over you?

You should do this. Or you should act this way.

Most of us have things that we regret, or wish were different in our lives. However, it is both our good and bad decisions that mould us into who we are today.

What we can do is learn from our past and try not to make the same mistakes again.

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So Here Are Today Tips For Building Resiliency And Celebrating Giving Up Your Shoulds Day:

I follow this quote as much as possible. It goes: never look back unless you are planning to go that way. Regret is a waste of energy and just leaves you feeling guilty.

Remember, we need to follow our own path and not let other people's expectations rule our life.

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TIP 2232 - Magic Spells To Relieve Your Stress

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Do you believe in magic?

Did you know that there is a magic spell that can relieve your stress?

It goes like this:

Magic moon burning bright,

Let thy will be done tonight.

Answer now my earnest spell.

Let things with Beverly all be well.

Not sure about the spell? Not sure you believe in magic, but wishing that you could let magic relieve your stress?

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Try These Tips For Building Your Resiliency And Celebrating International Magic Week:

Fun is a stress reliever, as is laughing, and sharing with others. So go and see a magic show and let the magic take you away.

Learn a magic trick and amaze your co-workers. Fun things added into your workday can increase productivity and creativity.

And finally, one of my most loved stress relievers is my magic bag. It has nothing to do with magic other than the way the heat warms me up and relaxes me completely.

Remember those who don't believe in magic will never find it.

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TIP 2231 - Fighting Forgetfulness By Using Checklist

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Do you forget things?

Is it because you forgot to write them down somewhere or tell Alexa to remind you?

Sometimes we push it out of our mind because the task doesn't rank in importance or urgency.

Sometimes it's because we want things to turn out just right and then we get overwhelmed by the details.

I love this quote. If we fail to control the events in our life, then the events in our life will control us.

Failing to plan and failing to keep moving forward, will ensure that we are stuck.

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So Here Are Today's Tips For Building Resiliency And Celebrating Checklist Day:

Find the answer to what's in it for me. Why is this task or decision important? What will I achieve once it's completed?

Write it down or set up a reminder.

Build systems and procedures to follow that will keep you on track.

Make appointments with yourself for breaks, planning, visioning, and even napping.

And reward yourself for getting things done.

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TIP 2230 – Hermit Day

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Today is the day to spend time alone. In seclusion.

However, it is a Tuesday, and you are likely at work or at school.

Most of us never will - or want to - live in a cave for years and years like an actual hermit, but we can still celebrate Hermit Day.

We can consider using seclusion at least once in a while as a way to rest up from the normal busyness of our lives.

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So Here Are Today’s Tips For Building Your Resilience And Celebrating Hermit Day:

Turn off your phone

Turn off your computer

Clear your mind of your worries

Rest

Enjoy your quiet time

Read, write or draw

Write in your journal

Meditate

Take a short nap

Go for a walk in nature

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TIP 2229 - Taking The Fright Out Of Halloween

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I love Halloween.

I love getting dressed up now almost as much as I did as a kid.

I have decorations everywhere.

I even created a haunted bush path through our trees when my children were small.

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Here Are My Tips For Building Resiliency And Celebrating Halloween Safety Week:

With so many kids, teens, and adults joining in on the Halloween fun, it's important to remember a few simple tips to ensure that the night won’t end up a fright.

Talk to your young children so that they know what to expect. Being greeted by a mask creature can ruin the night if a child is not prepared.

Remember Halloween activities for kids don't have to include squishy eyeballs and big monsters.

Have a howling in a good time without the spin tingling chills that give children nightmares.

If you are worried about ghouls and goblins include a line on your party invitation that simply says, no scary costumes please.

Halloween parties and trick or treat can be a great we'll have fun.

So plan ahead and happy haunting everyone.

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TIP 2228 – Cranky Co-Worker

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Do you have those days when you are more prickly than others or feel that you woke up on the wrong side of the bed?

Sometimes we have these types of days when everything seems to just go wrong. We couldn't find our keys. We had a battle with our teenager. We got stuck in traffic or we're getting a cold.

Today is the day to celebrate being cranky.

To celebrate the crankiness in us all.

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So Here Are My Tips For Being Cranky On Cranky Co-Worker Day:

Don't hold the door open for anyone.

Slam your office door.

Don't say goodbye when you hang up the phone.

Growl at anyone who seems perky.

Say it can't be done to any suggestion that is made.

Complain about the rain, snow, wind, sunshine, heat, blue sky, and wear really tight underwear, or at least the kind that seemed to want to climb up higher and higher.

And finally, if these just don't sound right, smile and ignore the crankiness in someone else and maybe offer them a simple act of kindness.

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TIP 2227 - We Can All Make A Difference

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Though everyone may want something unique from our job, there are some things in common that unite us.

One of them being that we want to know that we are making a difference.

A good leader knows how to recognize and value their team members, to let them know that they matter.

They make a point to notice, show respect and appreciation for a job well done. And they ensure that the team is not just receiving negative criticism.

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Today’s Tips For Building Resiliency And Celebrating Make A Difference Day:

You don't need to be a leader to make a point of recognizing someone for their contribution, their energy, or their hard work.

One of the greatest gifts that we can give to one another is the gift of encouragement.

Build others up and truly value the contributions they make.

You do not need to be best friends with every one at work, but communicating in a positive way can help to build a positive, productive, and enjoyable place to work.

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TIP 2226 - What Do You Know About Medications

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This is health literacy month. So what do you know about medication safety?

I knew that my medicine cupboard had been neglected when I found a jar of Vicks Rub from when I was a kid. Yes, that was a long time ago and yes, it was about time that it was thrown out.

Medication safety isn't just about an expiry date.

It's about safe storage, knowing what medications may interact with other medications, food, and supplements.

And it's about telling your doctor but any side effects that you may have had from previous prescriptions.

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So Here Are My Tips For Building Resiliency And Celebrating Health Literacy Month:

Check your prescriptions periodically for expiration dates.

If you're traveling through several time zones consult with your doctor or pharmacist to work out a plan for adjusting the timing of your medication. This will prevent you from taking too much or too little.

Remember the term natural does not necessarily mean safe. Treat all supplements and herbal remedies with the same respect as you would any prescribed medications.

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TIP 2225 - Getting A Massage Can Improve Your Mental Health

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There is nothing more relaxing than having a skilled massage therapist, work out the tension from an overly taunt neck and shoulder muscles.

But how is a massage an important component to mental health?

Massage can increase circulation by manually applying pressure and movement. It stimulates nerve receptors causing the blood vessels to dilate.

It increases oxygen capacity and loosens muscles.

All of this is great for promoting the body's relaxation response.

The other benefit is that it forces you to be still and to let your mind wander.

When the mind is allowed to relax, it is better able to focus when we need it after the message.

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So Here Are My Tips For Building Resiliency And Celebrating National Massage Therapy Awareness Week.

Find a qualified massage therapist.

Ask your friends who they would recommend.

Book the time. If you wait for the perfect time. you will never find it.

Our mental health is important, and massage can play an important role in helping us to relax.

So lay back and enjoy.

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