Work Smart Live Smart with Beverly Beuermann-King

EP 696 – Serendipity

What a surprise.

Who could have imagined that it would happen because of us meeting like this.

 

The Seventeenth Law of the Universe is The Law of Serendipity which states that the Universe bends in our direction by providing us with seemingly accidental and unexpected fortuitous circumstances which we often call luck.

 

Serendipity is the term for a “happy accident” or a “pleasant surprise.” Serendipity is an attitude in which you are always expecting happy surprises to occur.

 

So Here are today’s Hot Tips For Building Resiliency and Celebrating Serendipity Day

Step out of your routine, step out of your comfort zone, and try new things. Go new places. Meet new people. When you shake things up, you are preparing the ground for serendipity to occur.

 

Try taking a Serendipity Walk. A Serendipity Walk is where you wander with an empty mind. Serendipity means roving around without thinking about any problem, agenda and plan and see what happens and where you end up. No deadline and no destination. In this kind of walk you give your brain a rest and let your instinct and imagination direct you.

 

Serendipity Day encourages people to look for and notice those unexpected good things that are always out there, if we have the eyes to see them.

 

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EP 695 – Home With Your Kids

At this point in the summer vacation cycle, some of you are very tired of being home or entertaining or dropping off your children and you can hardly wait until the school bell rings. This doesn’t make you a bad parent.

 

Being home with your children whether for a day or as a career choice can take a lot of energy and creativity, and it is important for parents to take care of themselves and to support each other. Whether you are a working parent or a stay-at-home parent, both of these decisions take a certain sacrifice and toll.

 

Here are today’s Hot Tips For Building Resiliency and Celebrating Stay At Home With Your Kids Day:

• Find something fun to do today with your children.
• Examine your priorities. Leaving your job may not be an easy decision, but if your heart aches every time you drive away from the daycare center in the morning, it might be time to look at other options.
• Financially, there are many more options today. Some parents have chosen flex hours, telework, job sharing, starting their own company, virtual companies etc.
• Once you have made the choice make the best of it. Don’t let guilt rule and take the enjoyment out of life. When you are home, be at home. When you are at work, be at work. Be present and engaged.

Finally, on this day, reward yourself and your children. Being a parent is hard – there is no manual and a million right and wrong ways to do just about everything. Give yourself a pat on the back. Look back at what you have accomplished as a parent and take some satisfaction in that. It is not about perfection. It is about raising happy, healthy, well-adjusted children, in the very best way that we can.

 

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EP 694 – Reduce The Clutter

How you organize yourself can either help or hinder in the way that you deal with stress.

Clean out your inbox, or clean out your closet and you’ll notice the stress relief from being organized and clutter free.

 

Clutter can add more chaos.

But being too worried that everything is in its place can stop us from being productive and creative as well.

 

Your personal organization should help you to move forward, give you a sense of control over your space and help to decrease the stress that you feel.

 

Here are today’s Hot Tips For Building Resiliency and Celebrating National Reduce the Clutter Week:

• Use baskets to gather unread magazines/journals/computer accessories etc.
• Colour coded file folders makes for easier identification and location of topics.
• The idea of keeping sentimental treasures is not entirely practical and I am not really good at letting go. I know that there is simply no reason to save that dried flower that my first boyfriend gave me back in high school. Besides, how much am I actually enjoying anything that’s packed up in a box? We need to let these things go.
• De-junk your clothes closet while you are at it. Look at the bottom third of any drawer. These are usually the clothes that you are not attached to and could be donated.
• Purge periodically – it takes time but gives you more space and you may find that it can trigger your creative juices

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EP 693 – Relax!

We finally have a day off.  One that we have been looking forward to.  Only to be struck down with some kind of bug which makes us feel rotten. These symptoms can be a sign of leisure illness and they are often linked to stress caused by work overload and pushing ourselves too hard before taking time off.

 

Sometimes it is not until we stop the ‘rollercoaster ride’ that our body responds, and we experience these flu or cold like symptoms.

 

So Here are today’s Hot Tips For Building Resiliency and Celebrating National Relaxation Day:

 

• Vacations are important to our health and well-being, so don’t wait for the ‘right’ time.  Make plans to use all of your vacation allotment, whether it be a day off, an extended weekend or a longer vacation period.
• Do not over-program your days off.  Look for activities that are relaxing and rejuvenating.
• Promote relaxation.  Try deep breathing, visualization, yoga or a massage. 
• Get involved in a hobby.  Try gardening, fishing, boating, or reading a book.  Reading something uplifting activates the same positive emotion center as experiencing a happy moment first-hand.
• Get out and Play. Play is important for all aspects of our lives, including creativity and relationships. When we play, we trigger a mix of endorphins that lift our spirits and the relationships that we form during play remind us that we are not alone in this world. Playing with a pet can elevate levels of serotonin and dopamine, which calm and relax us.

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EP 692 – Admit You’re Happy

What is your burden to blessing ratio?

How often do you catch yourself complaining about something and how often are you outwardly expressing gratitude?

 

For most of us, we spend far too much time looking at the negative and the difficult and not nearly enough looking at the positive and the awesome.

 

So Here are today’s Hot Tips For Building Resiliency and Celebrating Admit You’re Happy Month:

 

The more that we focus on the positive and the awesome, the bigger the impact it will have on our happiness.

Admitting that we are happy, increases our happiness.

And it encourages others to admit to being appreciative and happy in their lives.

So celebrate the brief moments that make you smile, and the occasions that knock your socks off!

 

Dr. Amit Sood, Professor of Medicine and the Mayo Clinic, states that life’s happiest moments have one or more of these three ingredients: Creating, Connecting, Caring.

 

What positive things have happened to you today? Acknowledge all of them.

Be proud of who you are. Celebrate yourself.

Keep a positive mental attitude. You’ll feel better, live better, and be happier.

 

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EP 691– Is Romance Dead?

Some say that romance is dead.

I don’t think that it’s dead.

I just think that our expectations have been lowered.

 

Quick and convenient has polluted our relationships to the point where the effort of being truly romantic is seen as being over the top. We settle for emoji’s, watching TV together, and hanging out.

 

Romance is so much more.

 

So Here are today’s Hot Tips For Building Resiliency and Celebrating National Resurrect Romance Week:

 

Remind your significant other as to why you cherish them in the first place.

 

Romance takes effort and a dash of creativity. Here are some suggestions based on the Love Languages that got me thinking:

 

• Verbal appreciation is extremely powerful towards those who have Words of Affirmation as their primary love language. How about leaving a sweet or sexy note in their coat or on the dashboard of their car?
• Acts Of Service might be breakfast in bed or even making the bed.
• For those you appreciate Gift Giving, try to think of a meaningful gift, that doesn’t cost anything. Be creative like framing a favourite picture of the two of you.
• Quality Time together might be setting up a date night, complete with dressing up. Or going out on an unplanned adventure together.
• And for the fifth love language of Physical Touch you may try a foot massage or just holding your special someone’s hand while you drive.

Finally, remember that little romantic gestures here and there won't make an ounce of difference to the quality of your relationship if, the rest of the time, you treat your partner in unloving, negative and disrespectful ways.

 

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EP 690 - What Will Be Your Legacy?

My son’s archery coach was very sick and my son wrote him a letter letting him know how much my son liked him as a coach and mentor, about how his helpfulness and encouragement made my son feel and how much he was going to be missed.  I was told that this letter touched the man very deeply.  He had a huge impact on my son and he was leaving a wonderful legacy.

 

So–What words would your friends use to describe you?  What words would your family use?  Your business partners?

 

This month consider what legacy you are leaving to those around you.

Is your impact something that you can be proud of?  

Are your behaviours aligned with your values and beliefs? 

What do people think of when they think of you?

 

So Here are today’s Hot Tips For Building Resiliency and Celebrating What Will Be Your Legacy Month:

 

Some of the legacies that I have been gratefully left…

 

Financial responsibility – I watch my parents work hard to make ends meet on the family farm. Money was to be used wisely and decisions weighed against needs and wants.

 

Strong work ethic – They taught me that to get what you want you have to work hard and be persistent. 

 

Community – I watched both my grandparents and parents volunteer at the church and the local chamber.  I saw how they pitched in when other’s in the community needed their help.  I learned that we have a responsibility to those around us and we help out when we can.

 

Consider the legacy that you have been left. 

 

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EP 689 – Is It Time For A Check Up?

I hate going.

The pancake exam. You know, the mammogram.

While I am at it, I really don’t like going for my annual medical check-up.

 

I don’t like them, but I do know that they are necessary.

 

So Here are today’s Hot Tips For Building Resiliency and Celebrating Annual Medical Check-Up Day:

Preventive care is important. Everyone should get the recommended immunizations and screening tests.

Here are conditions most people should be screened for:

• High blood pressure
• High cholesterol
• Diabetes
• Breast cancer
• Cervical cancer
• Colon cancer
• Osteoporosis
• And Depression

 

Some studies have found that people who have a yearly check-up don’t tend to be healthier or live any longer than those who forgo the visits. So this is why the annual check up is being revamped and is being replaced by the Periodic Health Visit. Rather than everyone getting the same batch of tests, doctors are supposed to focus on the specific needs of individual patients – taking into account their age, gender and medical history.

 

The underlying message is clear. If you are concerned about a health issue, don’t wait, see your doctor. Self-care is always a priority.

 

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EP 688 – Lazy, Hazy Days

I like these lyrics for Lazy Day by Spanky and the Gang:

Blue sky, Sunshine, what a day to take a walk in the park.

Ice cream, Day dream, till the sky becomes a blanket of stars.

What a day for pickin' daisies, and lots of red balloons.

And what a day for holdin' hands and bein' with you.

 

So is it good to have a lazy day?

 

Though being active is healthy for us and procrastination can cause a lot of problems if it goes unchecked, taking a lazy day can actually be good for our mental health.

 

So Here are today’s Hot Tips For Building Resiliency and Celebrating Lazy Day:

• Taking it easy and indulging in a lazy day, can help to restore your energy and refocus your mind.
• But first, you have to let go of feeling guilty, like you are being bad by not doing something productive. Part of being successful is knowing how to add more joy to your life. Part of this is by learning to slow down and jump off the rollercoaster for a while.
• Try sleeping in and repairing some of the ill-effects of sleep-debt
• Go for a walk and plan nothing. Just be present and in the moment
• Sit outside enjoying nature and read a good book. There is nothing like going camping and reading something that is not designed to improve my business or better my life. It is just a story to get caught up in.

A like the song says, it is a great day for just holding hands.

 

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EP 687 – Holding Hands Reduces Stress

When it comes to holding hands it’s not all about romance. 

 

When you hold the hands of another you are sending the message that the other person is valued, important and noticed.

James Coan of the University of Virginia found that when people hold hands, their brains don’t work as hard to cope with stress. 

 

To hold someone’s hand is to offer them affection, protection or comfort.

 

A poll showed that more than half of people couldn’t remember the last time they held their grandparents hand and more than a quarter had never done so. However, almost a fifth of respondents, when asked whose hands they would most like to hold, said it would be the hand of a grandparent who has died.

 

Loneliness and depression are rampant in today’s society.  Holding someone’s hand, especially of someone who is isolated, dealing with an illness or elderly can help them to be more resilient against the impact of stress, promote better health and combat their feelings of isolation.

 

So Here are today’s Hot Tips For Building Resiliency and Celebrating Hand Holding Day:

 

Reach out and touch the hand of someone you love or someone in need.  Not only do they reap the benefit but so do you.

Don’t wait until it’s too late and end up regretting that you didn’t grab at the opportunity.

Robert Fulgham (Everything I Learned, I Learned In Kindergarten) said:

. . . Share everything. . .When you go out in the world, Watch out for traffic, hold hands, And stick together. . . .

 

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EP 686 - Choose Happiness

Happiness does not just happen. 

It has to be worked at. 

It is far easier to focus on the difficult, the stressful, the negative and the disappointing.

 

It takes effort to really notice and be thankful for the big and small things that make us happy.

 

So Here are today’s Hot Tips For Building Resiliency and Celebrating Happiness Happens Day:

 

Happiness Happens Day aims to spread the joy of being happy and to persuade people to look on the brighter side of life. 

So, raise your glass of pink lemonade to Happiness Happens Day. Why pink lemonade? Happy people naturally turn lemons into lemonade. Also pink is pretty.

 

• Plan something fun to look forward to after work.
• Get outside.  Sunlight can boost our mood as it impacts our neurotransmitters and hormones. 
• Use different scents to boost your mood. 
• Phone your mum. A US study found that hearing a mother’s voice is as good as a hug for stress release.
• Get away.  According to one study, vacations lead to increased happiness (93%),  less stress (86%), being recharged (89%),  more energy (81%) and improved health (78%).
• And finally, researchers found that people who count their blessings sleep better, have a higher self-worth and are more satisfied and happy with their life. 

So, let happiness happen.  Be open to it.  Be  aware of what makes you happy and when you are happy.

 

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EP 685 – Celebrating Professional Speaker’s Day

I would never have imagined that one day that I, Beverly, would be a public speaker.

I hated giving presentations.

When I was younger I struggled with stress and public speaking.

My voice would quiver.

I would speak a mile a minute.

My nervousness was obvious.

 

Some people report that they would rather be naked in public than have to deliver a speech to their peers.

I would have absolutely agreed with this statement.

The stress was unbelievable and public speaking was best to be avoided whenever possible.

 

So Here are today’s Hot Tips For Building Resiliency and Celebrating Professional Speaker’s Day:

Public Speaking Advice: You don’t need to be perfect. You just need to be able to deliver your message effectively.

 

What I learned was that speaking effectively in public and professionally is rarely a natural talent, but it is one that can be learned. When you have a passion for your topic, and you immerse yourself in that topic to become an expert, the stress becomes secondary to the message that you want and need to deliver.

 

Remember that your audience really does want you to be successful and they are all that truly matters.

 

I am proud to be a professional speaker. In fact, I am a Certified Professional Speaker and a Certified Virtual Speaker.  If only my high school English Teacher could see me now.

 

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EP 684 – Bad Breath

We know as parents that it is up to us to teach our children how to take care of their oral health and we wouldn’t think twice to tell our child that they need to go and use some mouthwash if their breath smelled.  But how do you handle it when it’s your friend, co-worker or boss? In a study by the Emily Post Institute, 75% of respondents polled said they’d want to be notified by a friend if they smelled.

 

Working with a colleague whose breath smells can be stressful, that’s why when doing a search on “bad breath and coworker” you can find over 1.8 million sites.

 

So Here are today’s Hot Tips For Building Resiliency and Celebrating National Fresh Breath Day:

• Most workplace experts recommend that the upfront method works the best…tell the person that their breath smell today and offer them a piece of gum.  You have given them a way out, by indicating that ‘today’ may mean that this is unusual or temporary and the gum lets them save face while they talk to you.
• If bad breath is something that you deal with on occasion, minimize foods that can increase sulphur production and stimulate bacteria like alcohol, coffee, dairy and sugars
• Stimulate saliva production which is nature’s breath freshener using sugar-free mints
• Drink lots of water
• Scrape the back of your tongue
• If it is chronic, you need to talk to your dentist about solutions that may be right for you.

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EP 683 - Breastfeeding and Stress

I thought getting pregnant was stressful. 

Feeding my baby was even more stressful. 

 

It was very clear after 2 weeks that my little boy was starving and as a new mom, I was horrified. Deemed a ‘failure to thrive’ baby.  He was so hungry that he could barely keep awake.  I wasn’t producing enough milk to nourish my own child.

 

At this point I thought I was a failure.  My dad, who was a dairy farmer, said later that if I had been one of his milking cows, I would have been turned to steak. Humourous now…certainly not then.

 

I now look at this tall, athletic, muscular man and it is hard to believe the rough start we had together.  He is healthy and that is the ultimate goal.

 

Breastfeeding is a healthy choice

But the pressure to nurse your child should never be so great that it makes a mother feel like a failure if they can’t make it happen.

 

So Here are today’s Hot Tips For Building Resiliency and Celebrating National Breastfeeding Awareness Week:

• Nursing a baby is natural.  Help moms to feel comfortable when it comes to feeding their child.
• Don’t assume that a parent who is bottle-feeding is doing so by choice.  Be supportive of all of the options that are available to parents.
• If you are expecting a baby or if you have a newborn, rely on the people around you for support.

And finally, Supermom status is a lousy goal and impossible to reach.  If we could all learn this early on it really would save us a tonne of stress.

 

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EP 682 - Simplify Your Life

Life can get very complicated and stressful what with all of the ‘hats’ we wear.

We sometimes let others control our activities and determine our priorities. 

So how do we simplify it so that our life is more manageable and enjoyable and we are more resilient?

 

Realization and acceptance can be the first steps to gaining control.  Accept that it’s impossible to do it all and it’s all right if you don’t, in fact, it’s much better if you don’t.

 

So Here are today’s Hot Tips For Building Resiliency and Celebrating Simplify Your Life Week:

• Avoid blaming others and situations – WE have the ultimate decision on how OUR time will be spent.
• Develop and set your priorities and say ‘No’ to those things which are not your priority.
• Planning and time management are essential skills.
• Prepare for the transition from work to home by planning your work-related activities for the next day before you leave the office. 
• Do not over-program yourself or your family.
• Make the morning routine as simple as possible, leaving yourself more than enough time for ‘emergencies’.

Our stress can be negatively impacted by the way in which we organize our daily activities and routines, and by the organization or lack there of in our physical environment.  Simplifying routines and de-junking physical space can increase our efficiency, our effectiveness and can add to a sense of control which can help us create a calm and peaceful presence.

 

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EP 681 - Canadian Heritage Day

On one particular visit home, I learned that my grandma didn’t learn English until she went to public school. Up till then, she spoke German. I had no idea that my maternal grandma came from a German background. I had just assumed that she was English, like my grandpa.

 

Understanding our heritage is important.

 

I grew up in a farming family. This meant that the ‘farm’ came first and that everyone in that family was responsible to make the farm successful.  Families helped each other, as more often than not, we were related to our neighbours in some way, and that conflict was put aside to get things done.  Happy or not.

 

I see a lot of conflict that happens on family farms when someone new comes into the farm family that doesn’t share those same values to the extent that the rest of the family does. 

 

These values are neither right or wrong, but unless the differences and expectations are talked about, openly and respectfully, the conflict festers and grows.

 

So Here are today’s Hot Tips For Building Resiliency and Celebrating Heritage Day:

 

• Whether you like it or not, heritage is what makes you who you are. Things like values, culture, food, and traditions are all past down. Your heritage is the foundation on which you stand.  It is the very thing that has gotten you to where you are now.
• Honor your past by the way you carry yourself in the present.
• Share your heritage with your children to create a solid foundation for them.

 

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EP 680– Friendships Can Protect Our Health

Witmer and Sweeney found in their study that people with few ties to others had 2 to 5 times the death rate as those who had more ties.

 

Support and connectedness can be a powerful tool in preventing illness by acting as a buffer to the effects of stress. The benefit of friendship is having the emotional support of a community during difficult times.

 

Workplaces are also recognizing the value of support in their organizations. Effective leaders are evaluating their teams and ensuring that they reduce isolation, celebrate occasions and successes, develop trust through effective communication, deal with conflict and gossip in a direct and open way, promote a casual and friendly atmosphere, and develop a support network through human resources, an EAP or connection to community contacts.

 

Unfortunately, many people in the workplace do not make the effort to utilize this great coping strategy and the busier we have become the easier it is to let our existing friendships go by the way-side. So where do we start?

 

Here are today’s Hot Tips For Building Resiliency and Celebrating International Friendship Week:

 

• At work and in your community, smile and say hello to those around you
• Connect with your co-workers informally
• Call, write or email those friends that you have lost touch with and book a date to get together

 

Connectedness and friendships have exceptional powers in decreasing our stress, if we venture to put ourselves ‘out there’.

 

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EP 679 - Great Friends Support Us

Our closest friends support us. They cheer for us. They cry with us. They laugh with us (and at us). They are there for us.

 

I have a couple of ‘bestest’ friends. I don’t see them very often as we have moved far apart. But I know that I can count on them.

 

Research shows that our social connection to our friends gives us a sense of belonging, a feeling of security and increase our sense of self-worth. They help us to deal better with the stressors in life and live happier more successful lives.

 

So Here are today’s Hot Tips For Building Resiliency and Celebrating Girlfriend’s Day:

 

Listen to your intuition – true friends give off a positive energy that make us feel good as opposed to drain us – Evaluate your friendships.

 

Make the time – though life can get away from us we should never let our friendships get away from us – friendships take energy and time to nurture and to keep fresh.

 

Learn to let go – our friends are no more perfect than we are. We need to ignore those imperfections and learn to celebrate their positive traits that brought us together as friends.

 

Today is a great day to share a special memory of those that you hold in your heart.

 

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EP 678 – Family Reunions

I am missing my family reunion today. Living so far away means that it is tough to make it to this family function. I have some wonderful memories of family reunions. The games that we would play. The prizes that were given out. The laughs that we would have, and the food. The awesome, glorious, delicious potluck that would follow.

So Here are today’s Hot Tips For Building Resiliency and Celebrating Family Reunion Month:

Family reunions can be a cherished tradition. But being around your family or going back to the town in which you grew up can stir up implicit memories that can automatically trigger feelings we felt in our past. No matter how mature we feel, memories of our 10 or 15-year-old selves can cause us to act like we did when we were 10 or 15.

If we fail to recognize how we are affected by old emotions and negative early experiences, we run the risk of projecting our past onto our present interactions and relationships.

So all of this is to say that family reunions can be fun and a point of real connection, but be aware that there is the potential for past memories and experiences to interfere with this enjoyment. Being aware of your triggers and emotions is the first step in being present and just enjoying the moment for what it really is…a chance to create a new memory.

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EP 677 – Friendships Matter

Life is to be fortified by many friendships. To love and to be loved is the greatest happiness of existence. Sydney Smith

I love my friends. They boost my energy. They make me laugh. They allow me to vent. They cheer me on.

Often, we can’t get together in person.

Social media has become a way for us to still stay connected. It is similar to the quilting bee of days gone by. The quilting bee was not about putting a quilt together. It was a way for the women of the community to get out from their homes and get connected. They shared, they vented, they cried, and they laughed.

Social media is just like the quilting bee for when we can’t connect in person. We post about our thoughts and our situations and our friends reply back with comments and support us.

Though others can comment on our writings, our pictures and our videos, there is nothing like the face-to-face gatherings of friends.

So Here are today’s Hot Tips For Building Resiliency and Celebrating International Day of Friendship:

We know from our research that people with friends are less likely to suffer physical and mental health problems than those who are socially isolated.

Friendships can last a lifetime or be specific to a time in our life – however long, they are valuable.

Remember your friends. Let them know that they matter. Connect when possible – but don’t leave it up to chance – or time may pass you both by.

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